“What can I give you to help us get what we respectively want?”

The New Set of Rules (which are not as new as you think) encourage and challenge you to:

-Identify and articulate your wants and needs

-Listen well and respond generously

-Set limits, keep your boundaries, and assert  yourself in an appropriate manner.

-Know when to back off

-Know when to get help

-Know when to embrace what you do have with appreciation and with gratitude

-Share yourself and receive your partner

-Actively cherish each other.

Get the intimacy you want

Rule:  Intimacy occurs when two or more mature individuals choose to share themselves with one another.

Healthy sharing is like breathing – inhaling and exhaling, receiving and transmitting.  The partners must be open enough to receive each other, while at the same time not so open that they lose themselves in the relationship

Sharing is a process of connection that occurs in the five areas of human experience:  Intellectual, emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual.  If you have optimal intimacy in a particular domain, you feel satisfied that your partner fully receives who you are and fully expresses who he/she 

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